Self-Talk concept Self-concept
Many times I have encountered a stutterer not (personally I like to call 'fluid') talking openly about stuttering, and often reaches the next point or idea: "Sometimes when I'm in a tense situation, I also lock, so nothing happens. "(1). I then try to return to explain that is not the same, but never reached, I think, to explain it. Now I hope to quietly write what I will explain in next time. Sure many of you have experienced this situation. Are not you've wanted to shout "but it's going to be the same!"?. Let's try
explained by the side of self-concept of stuttering. What other side there? There will be many more, I do not think this is just the only way to explain it. But let this first!.
Taking the book "The Nature of Stuttering" by Van Riper (page 229), we read that we, the stuttering, we construct our personal identity to internalize the reactions and evaluations of people who play a role in our lives - parents, brothers, friends, employers , girls! , etc. So far, so good, there is nothing unusual. I think that other people also build their personality to the important people around them and their context. But here comes the quit of question:
"What we think we see in the eyes of others that often determines what and who we think we are."
This sentence is where they build the "Belief System" of stuttering since childhood. Every block, every difficulty speaking and see the face of the listener with a negative evaluation, one after another, is like sand and wind that erodes the hardest rock where the rock ends at the end with the way the wind wanted. Here as well, how the belief system is built based on these negative assessments.
here and I think there are differences. When a non-stammering or stuttering remains stuck in a situation where their belief system has not seared for 20 years "I have to go!, shame on me ....", will be another belief system which does not accord him some minor stuttering.
And here's what confuses them non-stutterers. Visibly, both stutterers and non stutterers have exhibited some stutterers, some blocks or repetitions, but inside has been very different. For the stutterer has been like a blow to his whole being, include modifying their self-esteem, for no stuttering, the coup has been minimal for your being.
Thus, as we try to evaluate as we evaluate others Most stuttering abnormalities are based on evaluations of the listener and the way in which the stutterer perceives them. Ah yes, this I can explain that sometimes stutter more than others, or if we do, sometimes we care less and others.
Another point to discuss is that when the stutterer stutters, within their belief system is the belief that every time the label stutters a speaker becomes more inefficient, but also even the label of an undesirable person. And this, of course, is not the case when a non-stutterer stutters.
So what could reply to the comment of the principle (1)?
"Although the two, I stutter, you do not stutter, stutter the same way we, you, the way you think, by your belief system, you give no importance, for one, would give such importance that it could lower my self-esteem, avoid this situation in the future, away from the person with whom I'd like to talk, feel, for example, a feeling of helplessness when trying to assert my opinion (2). All this does not come free, how do you think I call myself by doing this? ".
(2) I read recently in a forum that a stutterer had a talk with your boss. The issue was over, it was the thing tight, then the stuttering started to stutter more, which, it was very difficult to put forward their opinions and defend their rights. At the end left the office without having said all he had to say, you can imagine how it went, full of hopelessness, frustration, anger, rage, ...
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